All apologies for my hiatus; I've just had major writer's block the past few weeks when it comes to just about every aspect of my life. Anyways, here I am!
Today's is going to be a short post about getting shit done. As I sit across the table from my best friend and fellow writer for Just a Girl, Meg, I marvel at our ability to go from goofing off and slacking to productive and kick ass in a matter of minutes.
It's important to find a friend that equals your intelligence, your drive and ambition, and also shares the notion that sometimes a bit of rule breaking (we had our last McDonald's meal for a while this afternoon) never hurt anyone.
On a personal note, starting today, July 1st, I am working on getting back in control of my body. I don't mean starving myself or anything extreme but dieting, exercising and taking a mental break when needed. I've begun to write in my journal again, something that keeps me sane and allows me to get out my frustrations on paper rather than holding them in.
I applied for internship today. Finger's crossed I get it! I'll be back, no worries.
-Nutter
Sunday, July 1, 2012
Thursday, May 31, 2012
A Feminist 'Tik Tok'
"Wake up in the morning feeling like Tina Fey,
grab my glasses, I'm out the door, I'm gonna have my say.
Before I leave, check the blog and catch up on the news,
cause when a girl's got some power, she's got awesome views.
I'm talking patriarchy in my shows, shows,
misogyny in my clothes, clothes.
Boys blowing up our phones, phones.
Name-droppin': Steinem and Obama,
Clinton and your mama.
Cut out all that dramaaaaaaa
Don't stop, close the gap
Shatter glass, that's a wrap.
Tonight, i'mma fight
til they see the new light.
Tik tok, on the clock,
cause Feminism won't stop, no,
oh oh oh ohhhhhh
woah oh oh ohhhhh"
Friday, May 25, 2012
Do I have to hold the door open for myself?
In high school, I rarely dated. When I say rarely, I mean almost never. I always felt like I was too busy, or the guy was never right, or was too short and stuff like that. Looking back there was only one or two boys that I regret not taking that chance with, but a problem I had, the reason that my brain never followed what my heart said was because I was afraid of losing myself. I was afraid to allow myself to be labeled someone’s “girlfriend” instead of just being Abby.
When I started Rutgers I realized how lonely I was and how I wanted a boy to both sweep me off my feet and allow me to remain completely myself. There were some suitors, or “gentleman callers” as I prefer to call them, but none of them proved worthy. (I hate the term boyfriend, it presents images of “going steady” and “getting pinned” and gives me Cold War 1950s anxiety.) I was scared, something I do not like to admit, too scared that I would end up like so many women before me, completely overtaken by their male partner or worse, be “too feminist” and scare all the boys away.
Now that I’ve managed to find a pretty awesome gentleman caller, I’ve realized that I wish I had been given some advice into dealing with dating while maintaining your awesome feminism. You do not have to change yourself; and the boy you’re with should never ask you to. It’s possible to remain independent and kickass while still finding a man. Here’s five pieces of advice that I think are pretty helpful for dating while a feminist.
2. Spend some time alone. You don’t need to see the boy 24/7 and part of the issue of dating as a woman is that your relationship becomes your entire world. Unnecessary. Start a blog, do community theatre, play bass guitar in a band, do something that is completely your own. Don’t get swept up in being in a “couple”, it’s important to maintain your independence.
Being in love isn’t anti-Feminist, always remain true to yourself and contradictions happen. Being a Feminist isn’t a clear cut belief system, there will be obstacles. But you shouldn’t have to go through them alone!
-Abigail
-Abigail
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